Addressing the Absence of Male Role Models for Young Men

It’s a reality many face: young men growing up, particularly those without fathers, often find themselves in environments dominated by women. Think about it—teachers, babysitters, pediatricians—these influences can shape a boy’s experience significantly.

This isn’t inherently negative, but a lack of male presence during formative years can lead to challenges. Without that balance, boys might struggle academically, feel lost, or lag behind their female peers as they grow older. Perhaps they end up being a bit too sensitive or, on the flip side, overly rough and unaccountable. There’s also the risk of disappointment in facing life’s realities too easily.

Fortunately, there are positive influences for those young people who miss out on male guidance early in life: engaging in sports with a good coach.

A strong male coach can play a crucial role in a young man’s growth. Sure, they teach the fundamentals of games—soccer, baseball, basketball—but they can also step up as mentors, especially for those who might need more support.

For most boys, the most significant missing “role model” is the dad.

NYT acknowledges it. “Some studies have shown that, like one in five children, they are growing up at home without a father, especially as a disadvantaged boy.”

As societal views shift and traditional male figures are challenged, having a dedicated coach becomes even more vital. Coaches instill discipline, foster respect, and help channel the boundless energy of young men into constructive pursuits, keeping them on track and away from trouble.

Moreover, male coaches can cultivate friendships and a sense of brotherhood. Teams often share common goals, support one another, and bridge differences in race and beliefs—something that seems increasingly necessary today. This unity addresses fundamental needs for trust and loyalty among young men.

Sports, in this context, serve as a platform for healthy competition. This stands in contrast to simply applauding participation. Young men learn that hard work and skill lead to real rewards on the field or court, where they confront challenges, take risks, and find fulfillment through effort rather than entitlement.

I personally played various sports as a child and teen, and each one imparted lessons. I learned how to navigate relationships with older teammates and how to handle newcomers bursting with overconfidence. I even figured out how to bounce back from games that didn’t go well.

One coach I had was particularly tough. During halftime of a game where I wasn’t performing well, he publicly challenged me. There was no sugarcoating; he made it clear that if I didn’t step up in the second half, I’d find myself benched, no matter my seniority or status as a starter. That moment ignited a fire within me, teaching me that nothing is guaranteed in sports or life. It’s a lesson I still carry today.